11 May 2009

Pain (part 01)

Pain..

Pain comes in different forms. Be it physical, mental and even spiritual pain..and in my opinion, the pain of another should never ever be compared to that one is suffering. It is something that everyone experience in life. I’ve suffered pain that has left a scar in my mind as well as in my heart and I will never ever forget, and I’m sure others have experienced the same too..

Pain can either be self inflicted or to others. One of the worst would be the lost of loved ones, a broken dream, lost in faith..and a lot more..even things that I thought would have been possible. The most common ones that I’ve seen are usually broken relationships among teenagers and young adults..

I’ve seen friends and relatives who have suffered and lost their way as a result of a broken heart. I understand some but not all the reasons of why this happens. Everyone has different needs and it will always be that way. There are those that do not have anyone to turn to, a non-supporting family or friends, alienated by others for their differences or just want to feel loved. Thus they thought their lover as their ‘everything’, mr.right, one and whatever. To them, their lover is all they have and means the world to them. I can’t really say much about this cause as I just said different people have different needs. But there are cases that this is a stupid thing to do. Some people would not only lose themselves, but would even commit suicide or turn towards alcohol or drugs to forget. To me, there is always a positive solution. Everyone will always have an option. Everyone deserves a chance to stand up and carry on with their lives. It takes strong will to not give up on yourselves.

For those that are still young, still goes to school and under the care of their parents shouldn’t hope too much in a relationship. There are so many that believes in true love and happy endings as they see in drama series and faerie tales. This is not completely wrong, as it depends entirely on the situation of the individual. An appropriate time would be when you are ready to ‘settle down’, you’re old enough, willing to take on new responsibilities, earning enough to support yourself or others. Its common nowadays that people would ‘submit’ themselves to their lover in the name of love. This is wrong. Many have fallen into victims. Young innocent or even underaged girls would surrender their virginity; others would devote their full attention to their lover instead of their education or families, or even commit acts of crime. This is nothing new. These people have been fooled and will break down once their partner left them for another person or disappeared.

I pity those who have had such an ordeal and pray that they do not give up on their lives and continue to live on. No one deserves to have their hearts broken. That is why, young teenagers shouldn't fully commit into a relationship, to not give everything that is important to your partners for love. There is no exact definition for love. But; "a feeling or sense of attraction between two individuals", would be good enough. In my opinion, true love is bullshit. A lot have confused love with lust, and would only realise this once they have fulfilled their sexual desires..

Yes, Love is beautiful. It's so beautiful that it can also blind people and turn it to close to that of a hellish experience...

2 comments:

Akilez said...

pain is no gain

Zoel said...

True, But depends entirely on what sort of pain you are suffering isn't it?

You can learn from them as well =D